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    • Selective Mute

      Recently I discovered a new psychology problem called selective mute. It means that an individual will not speak during certain environment or situation. Selective mute is usually misdiagnoses with the child being shy. It is not really. It is an anxiety disorder. You can do a search in Google for this disorder, it has lots of useful information on it.

      Timothy has this problem in school. He didn’t speak in is previous school for 2 years, not a single word to his teachers or friends. Every time I picked him up, he would wait for the teacher to go in and he will speak to me. Once while he was speaking to me, the teacher appeared in his back and he saw, he kept silent. *rolled eyes*. My diagnosis of him having this problem is the teachers were too fierce, not all but some. The turn over was high too. He always didn’t like to go to school and always asking me tomorrow got school or not.

      However, he can speak freely in church, with Emily’s babysitter, with my brother or my parents, which he doesn’t always meet. In church, during nursery time, he has no problem speaking to the volunteers taking care of the children.

      A month ago, we changed him to another school. He meets the principal who was my church friend. He did speak to her occasionally with 1 or 2 words. It is some progress there. He is still reluctant to speak to his class teacher. However, I hope time will allow him to build his confident and open up to his teacher. If he doesn’t do that, maybe we need to seek professional help. One thing to note is that we cannot pressure him to speak, it can cause more harm than good.

      It is very important to check out the school for your children. Some school can give a negative development impact to a child.

      Published on August 20, 2007 · Filed under: Anxiety, Psychology, Timothy;

    10 Responses to “Selective Mute”

    1. Well at least there is some progress with the change in schools. Hopefully there will be more soon.

    2. Same advise from me: boys act slower than girls, do give him more time. 🙂

      btw, the previous kindy teacher so fierce ar?

    3. Bravo….Tim..We know you will sure made progress…more..

    4. Oh? Selective mute? Guess this is something new to me. I thought Tim was shy and doesn’t speak much.

      I’m sure lots of kids are facing this problem. Destinee is one of them. Des seldom speak to her teachers in school too but she can talk and play with her classmates. At least Tim is friendly with his church members whereas she’s known as ‘si hum hau’ (cockerel mouth) in my apartment cos she just wouldn’t open her mouth to address or to talk to aunties and uncles unless she’s willing to or she’s VERY VERY familiar with the aunties and uncles she knows. But in the house, she’s one ‘ci ca mui’ (talkative girl). I just hope the 2 years in pre-school will help her overcome the problem before she enters primary 1.

    5. did u ask him why ah?

    6. Hi there. Thanks for visiting my blog. Sorry I am so slow to visit yours.

      My son was really quiet when he was younger. My friends wondered if he would ever speak up. haha But he grew out of it fortunately. Now we cannot get him to shut up. 😛

    7. don’t worry, as long as he can speak then should be no problem, maybe he just needs more time to interact with his teacher and classmates.

    8. I will pray for Tim – hopefully he will outgrow it…Jona is too talkative in school, but, still not so clear in communicating…

    9. mybabybay said on

      Giddy Tiger and Chanel: Thanks. He needs more encouragement.

      Jess: He is developing very well but just doesn’t want to speak or read in school

      Tracy: Believe me Tim is very talkative at home.

      Sasha: I did. He will ignore the question or change subject.

      Simple American: Thank you for dropping by too. I am hoping he will out grew it too.

      Hui Sia and Mamajo: Thanks. I hope so.

    10. I remember there was did classmate of mine who never spoken a word in class the entire year I was in the same class as her. She only spoke when she was asked to do reading.

      I hope with time, Tim will be able to open up to most people.