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Parenting Tips #8: Law & Order
5 CommentsMy hubby started to teach the children about Law & Punishment. Reward alone doesn’t work as children are still prone to do naughty things like fighting. I guess fighting or toys snatching are part of growing up but children need to learn to behave.
Previously my hubby set some simple rules and whoever breaks it will receive punishment. There are light punishments like apologizing, stand in a corner or sit on a “goodie” chair to severe punishment no sweets for a week, no TV or even caning.
However with caning, please do not do it out of anger and stress. When you are angry and stress up, it is better for you to cool down first, taking deep breath or count 1-10. Take your child aside, you can tell him what he did wrong and that you are going to give him his punishment. This is to prevent you from abusing your child.
It is always best to communicate to the child what he did wrong and why is he getting his punishment. That way he can learn to correct himself. Do not always associate pain with punishment. Try to be creative in giving out punishment.
Amazingly Tim and Em understands what punishment is when daddy introduced it to them. They had no sweets for 1 week as their punishment. Grandpa offers Emily a sweet when she went to visit him. Daddy reminded Emily of her punishment and Emily gave the sweet back to grandpa. Now every time they start to misbehave, we asked them whether they want to receive punishment. Both will say “NO”, shaking their heads and hands.
5 Responses to “Parenting Tips #8: Law & Order”
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Tracy said on September 28th, 2007 at 2:57 pm
How I wish I can displine Destinee like what u mentioned.She likes to scream and shout her lungs out and sometimes when we are outside, sure is an embarrasing moment for both Pappy and me and finally we have to give in.
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How I wish my punishment works. Keith will not listen to me. I’ll bring him to the corner and he’ll slowly move away. If I ask him to look at the wall, he’ll turn and look at me while laughing.
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Jeriel has the choice whether he want ‘soft’ or ‘hard’ way…’Hard’ is rotan..he he
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I use the reward n punishment sys with XY too but she doesn’t rmbr n will repeat the mistake again n again. sigh…
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Jo-N said on September 29th, 2007 at 9:40 pm
Positive parenting introduce time out but it doesn’t work for every child. I have tried so many methods and I think explaining works best for my children.
