I found that raising the second child is always the easiest than the first one. For those who have 1, faster sign up for the piggy’s club. You still have time.

Anyway, here is what I found.

Speech – Emily picked up speech faster than Tim. As she always converse with Tim. She also picked up the fierceness from me. She makes me look at myself and reduce my fierceness, which is a good thing. Once she picked up her Minnie Mouse Toy.

Emily: Don’t cry ah. No chocolate for you.
Emily: Don’t cry ah. I will beat you. 😯

Dancing – As you know Tim did the dancing for the concert. He did a couple of rehearsals at home, showing Emily how to do it. Once Tim sang the song and Emily did the dance. It was a great sight to watch them do things together.

Singing – Both likes to sing a lot. They learn songs from Sunday school and their nursery. Emily knows how to count and her alphabets too.

Competition – Last time Tim was having trouble with his meal or milk drinking. It took forever for him to finish his meal. Now with Emily, they will try to out beat each other to finish their milk or meals.

Potty Trained – Emily does whatever Tim does, so potty training is easy. Of coz, not stand and pee. Both sit on the potty to do their business and pee. Emily is diaperless during the daytime, a few months ago.

Of coz there are the bad when you have 2.

Fights – No one can escape from this. I just have to learn how to deal with it. Usually I will just let them fight, cry and stop. You do not need to stress yourselves, shouting at them, it does not work. They will fight even more. Focus on the child that will be distracted easily and solve the fight. Not easy but it can be done.

Selections – Each have their own selections. It is better not ask what they want, else it will end up with fights. Example, if you ask them what cartoon they want to watch, you are just asking for trouble. Mummy chooses and they watch it.

Oh well, if you are having a tough time raising 1, don’t despair. It is definitely easier with the second one. A lots of things, you will just close 1 eye.

Night time conversation.

Emily: Emily sleep, clever or not.
Mummy: Emily is a clever boy. *purposely*
Emily: No, Emily is a clever gal. Emily is a gal, not boy.
Mummy: Yeah, yeah, Emily is a clever gal. :giggles:

Few months ago:

Emily: Mummy
Emily: Mummy *no response from mummy because busy*
Emily: Mummy say “yes dear”
Mummy: Opps, yes dear.
Emily: Mummy *try again to ensure mummy gets it right*
Mummy: Yes dear.

Now:

Emily: Mummy
Mummy: Yes Emily darling
Emily: Emily is honey, not darling
Mummy: Opps, yes Emily honey

Generation have changed, I call my hubby, pa and call my children darling or honey. :sc:

Mummy: Emily please can you put your bowl in the sink.
Emily: Mummy see *clenching both of her fist* no hands.
Mummy: Ok, no hand for candy too.
Emily: *immediately bring the bowl to the sink*

Mummy 1 Emily 0 :giggles:

How can I forget Timothy. Here is a little on him. I have always been teaching the children to say please and thank q.

Mummy: Tim, please could you get me a tissue from the table.
Tim: *grab a tissue for mummy*
Mummy: *took the tissue and kept eating dinner*
Tim: Mummy, you must say thank q
Mummy: Opps, thank q Timothy, you such a clever boy. :giggles:

Are you a good guy or bad guy in your parenting roles? Once I read that one parent have to be the one disciplining the child and the other is the one who comforts when they get scolded or whack. However, to tell you the truth, my hubby and I are not very good at it. Our children tend to see our soft spot and sometimes out play us. In another words, we are too lenient.

They are afraid of other people like their teachers or grandma, listening to them and following their order, even without canning or scolding. No matter, how lenient we are, we still discipline them either with scolding or light caning (either on the palm or leg) if they go over board. With caning, so far I only have done it once. Now I don’t have to because when they see the cane, they are afraid. And I am not saying that this is the only method for discipline, I do use reward and others.

Sometimes the smart Emily, if she gets scolded by my hubby, she will cried and want mummy. If mummy scolds, she wants daddy. Funny thing is that, especially if one of us is away for business trip, she will want the one who is gone when she cries.

Besides disciplining role, most of the time my hubby and I will put on a cartoon hat. What’s that? We love to act funny to make them laugh. I still think humor or laughter will bind the family together. Hubby does that very well. He will do silly things to make the children laugh. Once, he put the laundry basket with holes over his head and acts like a robot. The children burst out laughing non stop and so does mummy.

Yesterday, I went shopping with my family. At the check out counter, Emily saw something interesting and wanted to buy. I suppose she didn’t know what it was but it did attract her. Anyway, since it was cheap and she has been a good gal, I got it for her.

Emily: Mummy, pls open for me.
Mummy: Wait, when you get in the car, I will open for you.
Emily: In the car ah?
Mummy: Yes.

Tim was anxious too, as there were 3 of it. He will anticipate that his sister will give him one.

Mummy: Come, let me open for you. Give kor kor one, ok?
Emily: Nah, kor kor you take this one.
Emily & Tim: *put the eraser in the mouth*
Mummy & Daddy: *burst out laughing* 😆

They thought it was a lollipop. 😆

Mummy: This cannot eat.
Emily: Cannot eat one ah?
Mummy: Cannot. :giggles:

By the way, Emily now is pacifier free. :dance:

Mummy: Where is choot choot? (aka Packifer)
Emily: Spoil already.
Mummy: You still want choot choot?
Emily: No
Mummy: If you can sleep with no choot choot, mummy will buy (reward) you with a present.
Emily: I want a red present.

She was in a very good mood yesterday. I think her teacher Jenny returned to school from her holidays. Teacher Jenny likes her very much. Emily always tells me about teacher Jenny. Anyway, since hubby started the weaning and she was in a good mood, I thought of continuing it.

Yesterday night, she slept without her pacifier. She did woke up 4-5 times, crying for no more than 5 minutes each time. I tried to sooth her but the more I soothed her, the louder she cried. I just left her to sooth herself back to sleep. She also has her security blanket. I did raise my voice once, she did stop crying and went back to sleep. At one point, I think she was exhausted, she cry a little and went back to sleep.

In the morning, daddy and I gave her an encouragement. As she was carried down the stairs, daddy shouted, “Yeah Emily so clever, no need to sleep with choot choot.” She looks happy and proud of herself. Daddy gave her a nicely wrap biscuit pack and she thought it was her present. :clap:

Let’s see how tonight goes.

Talk about bad timing, my hubby decided to cut Emily’s pacifier yesterday. She was not in a good mood and mummy had a 12 midnight conference call. When my hubby gave her the cut pacifier, she threw it away. She cried and ask mummy to take another one for her. When we do something like this, we will anticipate some crying. However she really beat the record, she cried from 9pm – 11:30pm, interval of 15-20 minutes of sleep. So much for getting a nap before my meeting. :doh:

As I was leaving the bedroom, she wailed even louder. I could hear her from my study room. Oh well, this is not really a good time to wean her. I took her spare pacifier and gave it to her. Everyone had a good night sleep while I attend my meeting.

Yawn, so today at least a few cups of caffeinated tea to keep me awake in work. I guess I have to try this again in Dec.

Tim’s story here: http://www.mybabybay.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=66

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We went on train ride, truck ride, merry go round and playground. There were other ship ride, bumper bee, bumper car and bus ride that go up high. For the ship rides, only children allowed, no adult. It was fun for the children. We couldn’t stay long as Emily wasn’t feeling well. 🙁

More Info here: http://www.timessquarekl.com/themepark.html

Pan Mee

I love a pan mee stall in KL. It is in Chow Kit Lorong Haji Taib 4 Road. That is where I grew up. The flat that I used to stay, now become a Tiong Nam Union (aka Persatuan Penjaja Tiong Nam). It has a lot of “lieu” as in mushroom strips, minced pork and vege. Pan Mee is a self-made flour noodle. It taste better when you add chilli and lime in it. Simply delicious!!!

I had to rush back from our vacation in KL one day early. Yesterday, Emily had a seizure fit in Sushi King at Berjaya Times Square. She wasn’t having any fever when we left the house. We spent 1 hour at the Children Theme Park, later we head to Sushi King for lunch. At that moment, she had mild fever. Half way through the lunch, she felt uneasy and wanted to sleep. I let her lie down on the bench.

At the same time, I asked hubby to look for a pharmacy to get cool fever. I should have asked him to get fever medicine. Anyway, we put the cool fever on her forehead but that wasn’t good enough. After 5 minutes, I saw her go unconscious and had a less than 1 minute fit. I had to put her by her side and make sure nothing is blocking her airway. I wasn’t afraid when she had the fit but it was afterwards when I didn’t know she was out of the fit or she was sleepy. She did response to me which was a good sign after the fit but she was very tired. (According to the doctor, it is normal that she will be tired and would let her sleep).

We paid the bill and rushed her to a nearby clinic. However, first time in the mall, didn’t know where it was or was it open. Anyway, my hubby (good thinking) approached the security officer. He made way and brought us to the emergency room at the theme park. The assistant (not sure his qualification, probably he had some certified training in emergency management) examined her heartbeat and gave her some oxygen. That’s when my gal cried and I felt relief. At least I know she was conscious. However she still had a high fever, worried she might have a second attack of fit. The assistant officer called an ambulance. I am really impressed that he acted fast. However, the ambulance took 30 minutes to arrive, sent her to Pantai Cheras for further care. Hubby and Emily went on the ambulance, while I drove Tim there.

At Pantai, I am really upset with the MO, he took 30 minutes to try to put the IV into Emily’s hand. My hubby said that he already had it in but then removed it again. Of coz, Emily was screaming. He gave Emily the suppository to bring the fever down. When I reached there, the IV wasn’t in. He tried the other hand, still failed. According to my hubby, he wanted to admit Emily that is a must. However, I saw Emily recovered and alert, because of the fear of having her hand poked again, she wanted to get out of the hospital. I discussed with my hubby that we will monitor her and we drove back to Penang. At Penang, it is easier for us if she is admitted.

Thank God, throughout the day, I was praying to him :pray: and he really did help us. At home, I gave Emily Paracetamol as she still have a slight fever. She slept and her fever was gone. She woke up hungry. I fed her and she slept some more. This morning she was fine, active and back to normal. I took her to her paed and have her checked. She is fine now, fever is off but I still have to monitor her closely.

Last time I did a project to put all my children expression pictures into 1 page. Click here to view.

I have done up another one to show how my children have grown. As I was scanning through their photos by month, it was like yesterday I delivered them. It really brought back lots of good memories. Enjoy the Canon moments:

Emily has dual F character. Today while Tim was wailing, she went up to him.

Emily: Kor Kor don’t cry yeah. *pat him*
Emily: Come, mei mei give you food. *takes food and put near Tim’s mouth*
Emily: Mei Mei sayang. *kiss kor kor forehead*
Emily: Stop crying yeah.

As I was preparing both of them to bed, Emily helped me to put back the Vicks and talcum powder. However she has no hands to put her worn clothes into the laundry basket. She wanted to do all at once.

Emily: Mummy put down the clothes. *she was halfway walking towards the cupboard, she turned back*
Emily: Put there, don’t touch. *raised her voice* 😡
Emily: Put there! Mei mei will put into the basket. *gave a fierce look* :naughty:
Mummy: Ok, you put back the powder first. 😯
Emily: No, you put the clothes down. Mei mei wants to put in the basket.

Mummy gave in, put the clothes down. Who knows what she will do if I don’t. Probably takes a toy gun and shoot me down. :giggles: